Comments on: When Discipline Goes Bad http://www.heligirl.com/2010/04/19/when-discipline-goes-bad/ A compassionate parenting, positive discipline, slightly crazy, mommy blog. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 07:38:08 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Carol Ann http://www.heligirl.com/2010/04/19/when-discipline-goes-bad/comment-page-1/#comment-1066 Carol Ann Mon, 12 Jul 2010 15:39:26 +0000 http://www.heligirl.com/?p=738#comment-1066 Guilty. The empty threats....I rarely do that, but the Hubs does it a lot. I love the line that the teacher used. I try really hard not to make a consequence that I can't follow through on. I've heard the Hubs say "C if you keep coloring on the table then you can't go to the birthday party this afternoon." Well, we know we are going to the birthday party regardless, so now it's a gamble hoping she obeys and if she doesn't then it's an empty threat. This will be a discussion in our household tonight! Guilty. The empty threats….I rarely do that, but the Hubs does it a lot. I love the line that the teacher used. I try really hard not to make a consequence that I can’t follow through on. I’ve heard the Hubs say “C if you keep coloring on the table then you can’t go to the birthday party this afternoon.” Well, we know we are going to the birthday party regardless, so now it’s a gamble hoping she obeys and if she doesn’t then it’s an empty threat.

This will be a discussion in our household tonight!
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]]> By: Heligirl http://www.heligirl.com/2010/04/19/when-discipline-goes-bad/comment-page-1/#comment-231 Heligirl Tue, 20 Apr 2010 23:41:17 +0000 http://www.heligirl.com/?p=738#comment-231 Kris, absolutely!! Excellent points and yes siree, setting the kids up for success is a very big part of this. What a great idea for another post. Thanks so much for sharing your insight!! Kris, absolutely!! Excellent points and yes siree, setting the kids up for success is a very big part of this. What a great idea for another post. Thanks so much for sharing your insight!!

]]> By: Kris http://www.heligirl.com/2010/04/19/when-discipline-goes-bad/comment-page-1/#comment-230 Kris Tue, 20 Apr 2010 20:42:59 +0000 http://www.heligirl.com/?p=738#comment-230 Excellent advice, I really align with you on how I (want) to discipline my now 7 month old. Thanks for the tips. One thing I keep in mind is something my dog trainer told me for our special needs dog. No - kids and dogs ARE NOT THE SAME - but there are some similarities. The advice was "set yourself up for success". Therefore, we put our dog in successful situations and expect the best we can from her in those situations. We know her limitations (much like you should know your 6 year old's). It really works. In this case, before you go to the beach - discuss the rules ahead of time - dress appropriately - maybe even have a bribe ready for an outing well spent (you get to pick what we have for dinner or what-not). And if those are not met and you threaten to leave..then you must LEAVE. Excellent advice, I really align with you on how I (want) to discipline my now 7 month old. Thanks for the tips. One thing I keep in mind is something my dog trainer told me for our special needs dog. No – kids and dogs ARE NOT THE SAME – but there are some similarities. The advice was “set yourself up for success”.

Therefore, we put our dog in successful situations and expect the best we can from her in those situations. We know her limitations (much like you should know your 6 year old’s). It really works. In this case, before you go to the beach – discuss the rules ahead of time – dress appropriately – maybe even have a bribe ready for an outing well spent (you get to pick what we have for dinner or what-not). And if those are not met and you threaten to leave..then you must LEAVE.

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