Positive Discipline Pat on the Back

by Heligirl on May 25, 2010

in Daily Ramblings,Positive Discipline

I’m totally psyched about all the responses my post about sleep for Mommy and Molly has received. Poor Alissa has been having a heck of a time and I sure hope we’ve all helped offer her some good tools to put to work. To be totally honest, I was a little nervous writing on such a hot topic and took my time making sure I had all my facts straight.

Then, when I checked in to see what commenters were saying, it hit me. Right there, comment number 7, my Positive Discipline hero Jane Nelsen found the blog and post and she took the time to comment!! Jane Nelsen herself!

Jane is the author of the books I so often quote and one of the founders of the whole Positive Discipline method I so passionately follow. Here is what she had to say:

“Very helpful post. Jen, you did such a nice job of providing many alternatives and allowing for differences–both in children and parents. One point I would like to add is that children are always making decisions. When they aren’t allowed to learn to self-sooth, they are likely to make the decision (as a “sense of,” not a decision they are aware of or could articulate), “I’m not capable. I must have other take care of me and let me always have my way.” When children learn to self-sooth, they are likely to decide, “I’m capable, and I can handle the ups and downs of life.” I really worry about children who are allowed to “rule the roost.” Try guessing what decisions they are making about themselves, others, and how to survive in life.”

That, my friends, is what I’m talking about. This woman is amazing and has so much to teach us about raising our kids with a strong sense of self. I think I’m going to go pass out now. What a wonderful comment, and how totally validating. I’m doing something right. Yeah!


Miranda May 25, 2010 at 12:07 pm

While I have reach a point where it was incredibly difficult for me to let my son CIO or “self-soothe,” I’m rapidly approaching the place where now I know when he’s manipulating me, so it’s easier to let him figure out how to put himself back to sleep at night. (Did that make sense? We Ferberized–GLORIOUS. Then I couldn’t do it when he started waking up at night. He eventually started STTN again and now I can tell when he needs me and when he doesn’t.)

Anyway, I just wanted to say that your posts have encouraged me to look more into Positive Discipline! Thanks!

JennyB May 25, 2010 at 12:27 pm

You’re doing great work and getting the recognition you deserve- glad you see it too!

LCW May 25, 2010 at 12:44 pm

I’m definitely purchasing some of your book recommendations. JPW and I are very excited to implement this type of parenting. I loved your guest post, I didn’t have the opportunity to comment at the time (I was reading it on my phone) but we implemented a lot of what you suggested when we “sleep trained” a few months ago and EVERYONE sleeps better now.

Nicole May 26, 2010 at 12:39 pm

IT was a great post. It inspiried me to check out the website, and now I want the books!

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