Potty Training in Three Days or Less – Day 2

by Heligirl on July 26, 2010

in Parenting Tidbits,Potty Training

It’s Day 2 of my Potty Training in Three Days or Less challenge. To catch up on the background of why on Earth I’d do this and read all about the first day, please click here. Go ahead, I”ll wait…

Back? Ok. Just to prepare you, I have to say, after an encouraging end to Day 1, Day 2 was a frustrating as all get out.

Day 2, Sunday, July 25, 2010:

Sweetness started out with a very full and poopy diaper. As I was changing her into her sundress, we talked about the potty. I reminded her that we don’t wear diapers during the day anymore and because of that, we need to sit on the potty as soon as we get up in the morning. That went over like a wet fart in church. I tried the choices approach – do you want the little potty or the toilet? The answer? “No!”

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To her credit, she did sit on her little potty a lot all morning. She had breakfast, hung out in the bathroom with me as I took a shower (her potty in the room too), and played a long time (stopping to sit on the potty when asked) before the first “opportunity” came. It had been 90 minutes since I got her up and I was getting nervous so I had her sit on it while I read like 4,325 books. Nothing. She ran around the house and every time she stopped I asked her to sit and she did. Then she got up and walked to the front screen door (the front door was open so air would circulate through the house and she likes to stand at the screen door and look out). She was there maybe two seconds, looking out at the yard before she peed on the threshold. Arggg!

She went back to the potty while we cleaned that up and when she got up there was a very, very tiny poo. You’re supposed to acknowledge even the tiny things so we did our potty dance, she got to dump and flush, then got her candy. I kept trying to get her to sit just in case, but she’d had enough. She went over to stand next to Hubby who was at the couch. Not two minutes later she announced, “Look, dog poop” and pointed to a pile at Hubby’s feet.

It wasn’t dog poop.

After another round of sitting on the potty and the poo clean up, I glanced at the clock – 9 a.m. It was going to be a long day.

I lathered her up with suntan lotion and took her outside to play. She played for an hour, going on and off the potty. Then finally, a few drops in the potty. Another potty dance and such. Then we went in and all hell broke loose.

First, after sitting on the potty for 15 minutes, she got up and peed a full bladder load in the corner. Not 30 minutes later, after another potty sitting and reading spell, she got up to wash her hands and peed all over the bathroom floor. I may be grasping for straws here, but the good news is she’s only actually hit carpet once so far since Saturday morning.

As a side note, I’ve noticed rewards don’t seem to be making any difference at all at this point. I’ve decided to bag them. Hubby wants to keep trying, but if she doesn’t ask for the candy after using the potty, I don’t offer it. I’ve noticed she’s far more excited about the prospect of taking the potty to the toilet, dumping it out and flushing by herself. In a way, that makes me feel so good. Being able to do something herself makes her feel much better than any reward, which is how it should be. So I’m following her lead on that.

I am keeping up with the encouraging words (even though I’m feeling mighty discouraged) and when she has accidents, making sure I’m saying, “Oh honey, you missed the potty. Don’t worry. I have faith you’ll get the hang of this in time and remember to go to the potty first. We’ll just keep trying.” The last thing I want to do is give her a complex. This much seems to be working because she isn’t fighting us when we tell her it’s time to sit on the potty.

The real trick in all of this is constant vigilance. It is hard to watch both kids at the same time. I try to keep them both in the same room together. If Sweetness wonders off to a different room to play, I’ll go with her and bring the potty. Mr. Man usually follows. She mainly stays in the living room or out back, so that’s not too big of a problem.

Mr. Man is doing two naps a day so we’ve been able to switch off keeping a close eye on Sweetness. It’s going to get harder during the week while Hubby is at work. When Mr. Man woke from his first nap yesterday, Hubby took him and ran errands. It’s nice to have only one around, but I can’t let her out of my sight, which is tiring, to say the least. If I pick up a book, try to check mail, anything, she’ll invariably pee somewhere. I realize we’re in the stage now where she just needs to experience and recognize the sensation of having to go to the bathroom. I must remain vigilant.

After another couple of accidents I was tired, frustrated and not a little discouraged. I worked really hard not to show it. I needed a break in the worst way. Then Sweetness came to my rescue, “Watch the car movie?” As a general rule, I’m very anti-TV for the kids. They can have 15 minutes of cartoons a day, if any. But I saw an opportunity.

I put Cars in the DVD player and made a deal with Sweetness. She can watch as long as she stays on the potty. She was tired from all her time outside so she sat quietly and watched her whole movie (a record for how long she’s sat in front of the TV). At the end we had a full potty! It was the ONLY full potty of the day. Sadly, I’m pretty certain her using it was not a conscious decision. Usually she announces she’s peed. This time she just got up after the movie walked away. I had to point out the pee. She seemed surprised. I don’t think I can count that as a victory. Sigh.

In an attempt not to feel completely discouraged, I reviewed what was different about Day 2. In truth, there was one big difference. While there were twice as many accidents, some of them were very small, followed by a bigger one a little later. She’s learning to sense it coming and is stopping mid-stream, if you will. That’s a big step. And sometimes there was only very little in the potty (same principle), she just hadn’t made the connection it was OK to let ‘er rip when on the potty (or she was just so focused on trying to stop it).

I think I might be right about her making these connections because she woke in the middle of the night last night and started crying. When I got to her room, her light was on, books were in her bed and she was standing by the door. We snuggled for a bit before she went back to sleep. I’m wondering if her little brain was working so hard on this it woke her up. And if so, did she make some progress internally? We’d soon find out, because the beginning of Day 3 was only four hours away…

Check out Day 3.

{ 22 comments }

Carol Ann July 26, 2010 at 8:52 am

Stay strong. Keep at it. And, I’ll cross my fingers for a splendid day 3!
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Heligirl July 26, 2010 at 10:41 am

Thanks so much. Here’s hoping…

KLZ July 26, 2010 at 9:50 am

You’re doing great. No one goes through it without an accident. You’re really doing great.
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Heligirl July 26, 2010 at 10:42 am

Hey girl! I’ve missed you. Thanks for stopping by. I’m headed over to see how that insanity taming is going…

Momma Drama July 26, 2010 at 9:56 am

oh, be happy she sits on it for you! That’s a big win too 🙂 mine would pitch the biggest fit about sitting on it – like it was going to eat his little tush or something. anyway – staying consistant and strong is the key… they smell fear! It took about 4 days of potty boot camp for mine. He’ll be 3 in a few weeks and I just potty trained him in May. You’ll get there. She’ll get there – it doesn’t take too long after the first boot camp before they get the hang of it!
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Heligirl July 26, 2010 at 10:43 am

Ooo, boot camp. I love that idea. Can I make a little twist to it? Butt Camp. That’ll work. 🙂

Stacie July 26, 2010 at 10:17 am

Keep up the good work! She has actually done her thing in her little potty, and whether she meant to or not, she saw that you were pleased that she did. You’re doing great!!!

Heligirl July 26, 2010 at 10:44 am

Thanks. I hadn’t thought of it that way. That makes lots of sense.

Florida Girl Meets the Midwest July 26, 2010 at 10:23 am

Oh, my. I had no idea this is what it is like. I feel terribly unprepared for motherhood.

PS A wet fart in church? Hysterical.

Heligirl July 26, 2010 at 10:45 am

I tell you, I’ve been dreading this step, and am totally responsible for putting it off so long. But now that I’m into this Boot Camp (Butt Camp), I’m hoping the idea will stick. She’s at home, without a diaper, with the nanny now. I’m excited and afraid for the report.

Trista July 26, 2010 at 10:50 am

Oh geez. Now I feel so lucky that they are tackling this at “school” too. I have heard of at least two m&m days but none at home. I am dreaaadding the cold turkey day which I fear is in our very near future. Here’s to you sistah.
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Heligirl July 27, 2010 at 9:47 am

Thanks. I wish I did have the support of the daycare in this too, but they just have too many kids potty training at once and can’t keep an eye on each one being diaperless.

Kris July 26, 2010 at 2:03 pm

You crack me up! Good luck, I will take notes! I *just*read this article last night too!

http://www.parenting.com/article/Toddler/Development/Extreme-Potty-Training-A-Diary
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Heligirl July 27, 2010 at 9:47 am

Cool. I’ll have to check that out!

Shell July 26, 2010 at 5:36 pm

Hang in there! Hopefully, she gets it!

I waited til my older two were over 3 and they got it quickly. Oldest in 1.5 days and middle in 3. Baby wants to use the potty at a little over 2, but he’s driving me crazy with it and I don’t think I have the patience for a long drawn out process.

Heligirl July 27, 2010 at 9:48 am

I bet the baby will be great at it, having the older ones to watch. My little man (1) already goes when he’s put on the potty. We put him there once just for the heck of it, and he used it. We’ve done it ever since before bed just to keep the habit up. He’ll be a pro, I hope, sooner than she was.

Katie July 26, 2010 at 6:04 pm

Wow! What a day! I am NOT looking forward to crossing this bridge, but I still have awhile. You are doing great – really staying strong and trying not to completely lose it.

Not sure where you had to go when the Nanny had a turn, but hopefully it involved a martini 😉

Day 3 is sure to bring success!
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Heligirl July 27, 2010 at 9:50 am

Oh man, I wish. I still work, part time four days a week and have a nanny two of those days. 🙂

JP July 27, 2010 at 2:58 am

Wow! I remember those days…but it was more than 3. My sister-in-law trained her grand daughter in a week using an alarm and each time it would go off, she would tell her it was time to sit on the potty. It worked…:) Good luck sweetheart…
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Heligirl July 27, 2010 at 9:50 am

Thanks much. This seems to be working, s-l-o-w-l-y…

Baga July 28, 2010 at 12:12 pm

Funny. I tried potty training in three days as per below blog and succeded not exactly in 3 days but was easy and was able to.
Potty training in three days – Fast track potty training program

http://proudprasad.blogspot.com/2010/07/potty-training-in-3-days.html

Heligirl July 28, 2010 at 3:39 pm

I’m so jealous!!

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