Potty Training – Day 4 of 3

by Heligirl on July 28, 2010

in Daily Ramblings,Parenting Tidbits,Potty Training

We continued on in our quest to potty train yesterday. For the full back story, be sure to check out Day 1, Day 2 and Day 3. And if you’re looking forward to returning to my regularly scheduled programming, this here report from the bloody war front of Butt Camp is the last of this crazy installment. This experiment is driving me insane. Send gin. And Hugh Jackman. I need to escape…

Day 4, Tuesday, July 27, 2010:

Sweetness was out cold when I left for work at 6:45 a.m. My regular calls to the nanny basically revealed that she either refused to go to the bathroom all morning, or was finding a way to be sneaky about where she was going. On Tuesdays a little boy her age who is completely potty trained comes over. She watched him do his magic, and she sat on the potty a lot, but there was no action.

When I got home, the nanny informed me that shortly after my last call Sweetness sat on the potty for 15 minutes outside, promptly got up, squatted in the grass to pee, then returned to the potty.

She was wondering around kind of funny and grabbing herself shortly after I got home, but despite several suggestion she have a seat on the potty, she sat for only a few seconds and then started in with lots of ‘no.’ I went into the bedroom to change and she followed. She was still dancing around holding herself a lot so I grabbed the potty and brought it into our master bath. She sat on it for a minute then stood up and picked it up. I was in the middle of tying my shoes when she started demanding I carry the potty. I told her I was busy and to please just put it down. In her typical manner of late, she threw it to the ground. And it hit her foot. Which made her scream. And then she let loose. She ran around the bathroom peeing all over the place. I finally caught her and went to put her on the potty and she fought me, peeing all the way, all over herself, the potty, the floor, the bathmats, everything.

That was it for me. I was so completely pissed off at this point I had to leave the room or I’d start shaming her. I left to get rags and a mop. When I returned she was on the potty where I’d put her and had peed a little more in there. No wonder she was dancing around.

I stripped her down, took her into the tub, sprayed her off from waist down, then slapped a diaper on her. I gave up. She just wasn’t really getting it. I’d wasted enough nice days following her around and encouraging her to sit on the potty only to have her avoid the damn thing today and pee all over the yard and bathroom. She asked me where her potty was and I told her I put it away because she didn’t want to use it. She was back in diapers now. Pee away.

After a little time to cool off, which I used to get Mr. Man up from his nap, changed and in his high chair with finger food, I went to check on her. She asked if she could go out and play in the pool. I put her swim shirt on and took off the diaper. She went outside and I ended up following with the potty. I left it there with her and went in to feed Mr. Man.

About 15 minutes later she came walking up the stairs to the deck carrying the basin of the potty. “Look Mommy, poop!”

Well I’ll be. We did the potty dance, she got hugs, we flushed, washed hands and had a candy.

When Sweetness’s buddy’s mom came by to pick him up she told me the 3-day program she followed required the child to wear underwear so they’d feel the wetness right away. That’s what worked for her son. At this point, and in my current state of mind, I’ll give anything a try.

So with Sweetness now out of pee and poo, I slapped the padded undies I had for her on her butt and we all went off to Target to pick out big girl panties and pull ups (the later for daycare). When we got to the toddler undies, she chose a cool set of froggy undies. She loves frogs, so she was pretty psyched. Then we grabbed some pull ups and were out of there. She did really well. Her first outing without diapers, and no incidents.

When we got home she started acting out. She’s been doing this a lot lately, and maybe it’s a side effect of all the focused potty training. She walked right up to her brother and slapped him in the face. We’ve been working on her hitting her brother and she knows the rules. If she hits, kicks, slaps or otherwise hurts him, she has to have a positive time out. We take her out of the situation and set her down in her room. Sometimes I’ll hand her a book and suggest she enjoy a little time away from baby brother. Lately she just starts screaming about this as she stands in her room, getting herself all upset rather than cooling off. I realize she’s probably acting this way about being separated from her brother because she views it as punishment, but I’ve yet to find a better way to deal with it when I’m in the middle of something and can’t give her all my attention.

After slapping her brother three different times I took her off to her room and sat her down with a book. She started crying. I explained we are nice to each other and there is no hitting. Perhaps she can read a book where baby brother isn’t so he can’t bother her. She screamed louder. I brought in the potty just in case. She slammed the door on me and not more than 30 seconds later the screaming changed. I went in to check and sure enough, she was standing there next to the potty in a huge puddle of pee. I don’t think I can count this accident as being a lack of grasping potty training because she was upset. Come to think of it, I probably can’t count the bathroom spraying either since she was evidently traumatized by throwing the potty onto her own foot.

However, the day ended without her using the potty again. She danced around a lot grabbing herself before bed, but did nothing about it. She wore her new big girl underwear, told us several times that she needed to use the potty (and went over, pulled down her undies and sat on it), but no dice.

I know I should see that the actual accidents I had to clean up were limited to two, and they were both when she was distressed. And the pooping thing is a big step. Also, she didn’t soil her new undies. I know this is all progress. It’s just that I’m impatient and really just want to see some serious progress, like her using the potty regularly, without me having to ask all the time. It will come in time. And as my nanny share buddy said as she was leaving, Sweetness will be out of diapers by the time she starts dating. Or better yet, maybe she’ll still be in them and then she’ll avoid dating. There’s a positive side to everything, see?

In the meantime, Mr. Man decided he needed to pull a new parlor trick so as not to be forgotten during this time of intense focus on big sister. Today he started walking with the walker for the first time:

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Carol Ann July 28, 2010 at 8:03 am

The Poo is huge progress!! She’s getting there. I know how it can test your patience and sanity.

My 4 1/2 year old is notorious for hitting her sister on her head just to see the reaction. I always sit her down and ask her how she would like it if a bigger kid did that to her, although I don’t put her in time out. Do you think time out would be more effective?

Mr. Man looks so proud of himself! Cute video!

Heligirl July 28, 2010 at 9:17 am

Thanks for sticking with me though this Carol Ann. I really appreciate your support. I don’t know if the positive time outs are working. I really don’t think so because she just doesn’t seem to get it. She keeps hitting him, and rationalizing with her at 2 1/2 isn’t working. Between that and the potty training, I’m thinking about becoming an alcoholic this week.

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July 28, 2010 at 9:23 am

I’m sure it will all work itself out by the time she’s married and it becomes HIS problem… it’s all in the timing…

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July 28, 2010 at 4:53 pm

LOL, that’s too much. Thanks for the giggle. 🙂

Kirsten July 28, 2010 at 7:02 pm

Hang in there girl! I think we got very lucky with Coen and I can’t imagine how hard it can be if it doesn’t go the way you expect!
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Heligirl July 29, 2010 at 12:05 pm

I think expectations are the worst part of it. The program goes on and on about how it will work, so I had high expectations. In the end, it’ll happen in its own time. 🙂

Helene July 28, 2010 at 8:36 pm

Day 4 out of 3…sorry, but that made me kinda giggle. Only because I’m right there with you, feeling your pain. I’m in the midst of PT’ing my 3-yr old twins…it’s been slow going for sure. One day they do so well and then other days I want to bang my head against a wall and drink wine until I feel no more pain.

Mine start preschool in 3 weeks and they have to be completely potty trained so I’ve been just pretending like it’s no big deal to me. I say, “Well, it’ll be too bad if you won’t be able to start school with all the big kids because you still wear diapers. What a shame because I know you know how to use the potty”.

Hang in there…we can do this!! Thank you so much for the comment and for the follow! Following you now too!

Heligirl July 29, 2010 at 12:10 pm

Oh man, you had me at “bang my head against a wall and drink wine until I feel no more pain.” LOL!! Soooooo true!

Rachel {at} Mommy Needs a Vacation July 28, 2010 at 9:13 pm

You are a brave brave woman to post about potty training on a daily basis!! GOOD LUCK! It is def. NOT fun!
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Heligirl July 29, 2010 at 12:09 pm

I hope I haven’t lost any loyal readers. It can be a bit much, I know. It’s driving me crazy. However, I had a reality check today when a coworker told me terrible news of a little 2-year-old who was severely injured in an accident. It put things in perspective. So what if they’re not potty trained by when we want. They’re alive, healthy and in once piece. We are very fortunate. 🙂

Susan July 30, 2010 at 8:03 pm

Sounds like she’s making progress. Hang in there. I have another Gf who is also potty training her daughter. I think you two started on the same day. So far, she’s pooped in the bath twice, had mulitple accidents a day, but is also getting it. Accidents are becoming fewer, and actually “going” while sitting on the potty, is on the increase. Just keep being encouraging and she’ll get there. (It’s ironic, because she was a journalist, too, and reading her potty adventures is pretty funny.)

I think that preschools that require kids to be toilet trained are insane. Thank goodness my little “late bloomer” went to a developmental preschool, where it didn’t matter that he was in diapers until almost 4 1/2. Once he made the decision to leave diapers behind, that was it. Two small pee accidents (because he was playing and forgot he wasn’t in diapers anymore), and that was it. A few months more for the night time. Once he decided to give up the Good Nites (he’d been dry 95% of the time by that point), that was it. Never wet the bed.

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