Finding Balance in Sedona

by Heligirl on August 27, 2010

in Daily Ramblings,Relationships

Spinning plates

Can life be more crazy?

I used to want to describe life these days as a juggling act where I’m trying to keep a bunch of balls in the air, but the fact of the matter is that might be too simple of an analogy. It actually feels more like one of those circus acts where I’m keeping 100 plates spinning on rods. In the dark. On one leg.

Like many moms (and dads) my time is split in three major directions, and branches off from there. For income there’s my part-time job, several different freelance projects, and this here “hobby” that I hope one day will tow its own weight at the very least.

Then there’s the family share – cooking, cleaning, playing with the kids, shopping, playdates, childcare, planning activities, outings, doctor appointments, preschool, and quality time with my hubby.

Finally, when all is said and done, there’s me time – bathing, haircuts, time with friends, e-mail, surfing the net, reading, TV, staring into space as I dream of all the stuff I’d do if I had energy, and sleep. You know, uninterrupted time to do what you want to do.

Hubby and I have been very good about keeping up with work and family obligations, minus one – quality time together. Sadly, that sometimes gets sacrificed for our individual “me” time. I just can’t count the two of us sitting on the couch staring at the TV because we’re just too tired to hold a conversation as quality time together.

I come from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was 9. And the two of them together in a room is the eighth sign of the Apocalypse (unless they have a grandchild being born, then its ok.)

My Hubby’s parents divorced when he was even younger. We both know to different extents what that does to kids, and families on a whole. We want to break that cycle and we know, deep down, we have to make time for each other in order to do that.

With that, we’ve vowed to spend a weekend away together at least once a year, and it will grow to more as the kids get older and easier for the grandparents to have for extended periods in their own homes.

Enchantment Resort

Where we'll be. Photo courtesy of Enchantment Resort.

Tomorrow, this year’s getaway begins and I can hardly contain myself.

We’re off to Sedona, Arizona, one of my very favorite places in the whole wide world. Last Christmas my amazing VP worked out a deal with several great resorts for gift certificates, swapping our services in trade. Not knowing why, we were all told to draw a number out of a hat at our department Christmas party. We were then handed envelops with the corresponding number. My envelop contained a certificate for two nights at the Enchantment Resort, a very exclusive and ultra hoity toity resort nestled among the red rocks of Sedona.

I cried. Literally. I think my boss was very uncomfortable. I couldn’t control myself. Of all the great places they’d given to us all, that was the very best in my mind and I just cried. The resort charges more than $500 a night. I’ve never received a gift that valuable.

So early tomorrow morning, thanks to my family and nanny who will be rotating through the house doing the child and dog care relay for the weekend, we’re off to Arizona.

What will we do? I have no plans other than to just be with my wonderful husband. Maybe we’ll take a hike. Maybe we’ll sight see. I feel pretty certain we’ll lay by the pool, enjoy the afternoon thunderstorm shows and catch up on sleep. We’ll eat and talk uninterrupted. And we’ll definitely be acting like a couple of honeymooners, if you catch my drift.

And I hope the beauty, energy and time away will together bring us closer and ready to take on football season, new preschools, the holidays and the daily crazy coming with the onset of Fall.


Barb August 27, 2010 at 3:33 pm

That sounds wonderful! I am a single mom and while I hate the term ‘broken home’ I understand the meaning behind it. If I could have made my marriage happy and lasting I would have. But for MANY reasons, it didnt happen that way. I will forever carry the guilt of not being able to provide my children with a wonderful mom and dad homelife.
I hope and pray that when my kids get married they will marry someone who is their partner for life.
Congrats on your big ticket win to Arizona! That is awesome!

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August 27, 2010 at 6:58 pm

Thanks Barb. I consider my childhood from a broken home, but though my husband’s parents divorced, they remained civil and his mom remarried a great man who helped raise the kids. I don’t consider my husband from a broken home. More an nontraditional family. I’ll say a little prayer for your kids too. Thanks for the warm wishes for the trip. Almost packed…

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August 27, 2010 at 5:39 pm

What a wonderful gift… thoroughly enjoy your weekend and renew your love and friendship… it’s always great to get away from all the responsibilities… awesome prize… awesome…
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August 27, 2010 at 6:59 pm

Thanks Sharlene. I totally agree!!

Booyah's Momma August 28, 2010 at 3:42 pm

Wow, what an awesome Christmas present! Enjoy your time away!
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September 1, 2010 at 8:21 am

Thanks. We did and I’ve posted photos now. 🙂

Alexandra August 28, 2010 at 11:48 pm

What a gift. I look forward to hearing how it went. How I wish we could do that, you were so lucky to win!!!
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September 1, 2010 at 8:22 am

I plan to write up some thoughts on it when I can think straight. We had a blast. I think the kids missed us. The first night after we were back, Sweetness was up at 3:30 a.m. and didn’t go back to sleep. Ugh! I did get some photos posted in the meantime. 🙂

JP August 29, 2010 at 7:02 am

That is AWESOME! You deserve it and I can hardly wait to hear about it….:)JP
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September 1, 2010 at 8:23 am

I promise to write up something soon!

Colleen August 29, 2010 at 1:09 pm

How exciting! I hope you have a wonderful time. I would love to have a weekend with just hubby.
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September 1, 2010 at 8:23 am

It’s really important to get away with him from time to time. I wish we could do it more.

Alana Morales August 29, 2010 at 7:16 pm

Yay for you!! My inlaws live in Sedona and we have spent a ton of time up there. I love the Enchantment too! They have a fantastic Sunday brunch!! Enjoy!

BTW – I love this line: It actually feels more like one of those circus acts where I’m keeping 100 plates spinning on rods. In the dark. On one leg.


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September 1, 2010 at 8:24 am

Thanks. 🙂 And I’m totally jealous you have family there. I wish I had some in Arizona. I love visiting there so much.

Carol Ann August 30, 2010 at 8:30 am

Awesome! I hope you enjoy every single moment of your trip! My hubs won a stay at the Ritz in town through his job. We are doing that this weekend…so we’ll have a weekend get away in town and the kids will be with a sitter. I’m so excited I can hardly stand it! Enjoy!

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September 1, 2010 at 8:25 am

Oh I can’t wait to hear about it Carol. It’s so much fun to get away. The only trick is to not worry about the kids.

LeeAnn September 2, 2010 at 10:02 am

I guess I should have read this one before the newest post. 😉 I’m so glad you were able to get away. I think that Brian and I are in definite need of something like this and I hope we are able to get away soon. Life does get hectic, but you have to remember to make time for yourselves. And it doesn’t hurt that you were going to a swanky resort like that one!

(BTW…I posted an update about all of the daycare crap. I think it is over. At least I hope it is.)
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